11 Oct 25 is National Coming Out Day. Celebrating Courage and Respecting Privacy Because everyone deserves the right to tell their own story when they are ready

Each year on October 11, people across Canada and around the world observe National Coming Out Day (NCOD), a day to recognize and support the courage of those who choose to share their sexual orientation or gender identity openly. For members of the 2SLGBTQIA+ community, coming out can be a deeply personal milestone and a powerful act of self-affirmation.

National Coming Out Day was first established in 1988 by activists Robert Eichberg and Jean O’Leary, marking the anniversary of the 1987 Second National March on Washington for Lesbian and Gay Rights. Their vision was simple yet profound: to encourage visibility and to remind society that prejudice and discrimination thrive in silence. Since then, NCOD has evolved into a global observance promoting authenticity, understanding, and the shared goal of creating inclusive environments where everyone can live openly and without fear.

The Significance of Coming Out

For many, coming out represents the freedom to live authentically and without concealment. It is an expression of trust in oneself, and in the community that receives that truth. Coming out can be life-changing, often leading to improved mental health, stronger relationships, and a deeper sense of belonging.

However, it is important to remember that coming out is not without risk. Individuals may face rejection, discrimination, or even danger depending on their personal, professional, or cultural environments. This is why the decision to come out always belongs to the individual — on their terms, and in their own time.

One of the most meaningful ways to support 2SLGBTQIA+ colleagues, friends, and family is by respecting their privacy and autonomy. Outing someone, defined as disclosing their identity without consent, can cause emotional harm, loss of trust, and even jeopardize their safety or career.

In a professional setting, especially within the Canadian Armed Forces (CAF), fostering an inclusive culture means being mindful of language, refraining from assumptions, and allowing each person to define their own story. Inclusion is not about asking for personal details, it is about creating an environment where no one feels they need to hide.

CAF members and Department of National Defence (DND) employees are encouraged to embody the principles of respect, dignity, and integrity in all interactions. Inclusive behaviours include:

• Using correct names and pronouns as individuals request;

• Listening without judgement;

• Challenging stereotypes or inappropriate comments; and

• Supporting policies and programs that promote diversity and psychological safety such as the Positive Space Ambassador program.

These actions contribute to an environment where everyone can thrive and serve with pride exactly as they are.

National Coming Out Day is not just about those who come out; it is also about those who listen, support, and stand beside them. By understanding the significance of coming out and the importance of respecting privacy, we help ensure that our workplaces, units, and communities reflect the CAF values of inclusivity, respect, and honour.